Dr. Sheri Meyers
Author of Chatting or Cheating
It used to be that affairs only happened at work, out of town, or otherwise outside the home.
But with the advent of cell phones, the Internet and social networking, it’s easier than ever to connect with anyone, anytime, right in the comfort of your living room.
The brain chemicals released from mere flirtations can be as addictive as drugs, and people who never thought they’d ever betray their partner can unknowingly slide down the slippery slope of emotional sex and cheating.
That’s because flirtatious text messages, self-revealing chats, and intimate confessions can fuel a unique cocktail of brain chemistry that can turn a platonic friendship into an addictive, all-consuming affair of the heart.
When the wave of emotional sex takes over, chances are good that it can lead into emotional, cyber and/or physical cheating.
Whether you’re the one who suspects your partner of cheating, or you’re the one who’s been engaging in a secret affair, Chatting or Cheating, will guide you through the process of discovery, confrontation, confession, and healing.
In CHATTING OR CHEATING you’ll learn how to…
Become “affair aware,” and stop denying what’s really going on.
Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs, breeding grounds, and relationship vulnerabilities.
Gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront them in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.
Confess the truth without breaking your partner’s heart.
End the Affair, break the addiction, and stop the obsessing—specific, proven tips and strategies for eliminating unwanted thoughts, moving on, forgiving yourself and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.
Survive the betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust, no matter how betrayed and angry you feel, or how impossible it may seem right now.
Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, create genuine intimacy, and safely love again.
You can save your relationship and make it even better than before!
Emotional sex or physical infidelity doesn’t need to lead to a break-up or divorce.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be the disaster you imagine.
When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever.
Chatting or Cheating, takes you by the hand and guides you through each step required to save your relationship, rebuild your love, jump-start your romance, and make your partnership healthy, honest, and heart-happy.
You can turn it around. You can fall in love again.
Dr. Sheri Meyers shows you how.
About the Author
Sheri Meyers, Psy.D, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA, is among the national media’s most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship, infidelity and life transition experts. A regular contributor on broadcast network news including ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, cable TV, and radio talk shows, Dr. Sheri’s compassionate, practical, straight talk and easy-to-apply methods have inspired and helped thousands of men and women face and overcome their most complex and daunting life, relationship, and sexual challenges. In Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship, Dr. Sheri now shares with you her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 25 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again.
Dr. Sheri Meyers has written a profound and powerful book that is a must-read for anyone wanting to protect your relationship, heal it if it’s on shaky ground, or recover from the heartbreak of infidelity. With deep insight, clarity and compassion, she offers you an essential map through the murky maze of the most painful issues a couple can face. “Chatting or Cheating” will be the answer to many prayers.
Barbara De Angelis Ph.D.
#1 NY Times Bestselling Author of How Did I Get Here?
“Chatting or Cheating” is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book.
Daniel G. Amen, MD
Author of NY Times Bestseller Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
“Chatting or Cheating” is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity There are wonderful sections on instructing the cheater how to confess and to end an affair–also on how “the betrayed” can recover. This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart.
Judith Orloff, MD
Author, Emotional Freedom
Read this book BEFORE you have an affair. Read this book if you’ve ever fantasized about having an affair. And if you’ve had an affair, or suspect your partner, read this book to prepare yourself for a journey into intimacy. Thanks to the expertise of Dr. Meyers and her straight-arrow and heartfelt advice, this gem may just save your relationship before trouble even ensues.
Mark Robert Waldman
Author – How God Changes Your Brain
This book is essential for all therapists, and for anyone who wonders about the health of their committed relationship. I’m very impressed with the tremendous contribution this book will make to our profession and to couples everywhere.
Peter Lambrou, Ph.D.
Author – Instant Emotional Healing: Acupressure for the Emotions
As a divorce lawyer and mediator, I regularly deal with the trauma and loss of broken marriages that result because one partner started out chatting and ended up cheating. If there’s a chance you are in those circumstances, ‘Chatting or Cheating’ is the light that can lead you and your mate out of the darkness and into the possibility of reconciliation and healing. I highly recommend it.
Dennis A. Cohen, Esq.
Family Law Attorney & Mediator
Finally, someone has written an easy-to-utilize book that has the most-accurate 21st century clues and insights on why people begin to stray and what can be done to strengthen your love and closeness. If you’ve ever started to wonder if your relationship is in even the slightest danger, this book can help you sort out truth from self-deception and teach you the ways to build the kind of trust, intimacy and satisfaction you’ve always longed for.
Leonard Felder, PhD
Author – Make Up or Break Up: 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship