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About the Book

Chatting or Cheating Is the Step-by-Step, Complete Guide to Detecting an Affair, Confronting Your Partner, and Restoring and Rebuilding Love and Trust After Infidelity

It used to be that affairs only happened at work, out of town, or otherwise outside the home.  But with the advent of cell phones, the Internet and social  networking, it’s easier than ever to connect with anyone, anytime, right in the comfort of your living room.   

The brain chemicals released from mere flirtations can be as addictive as drugs, and people who never thought they’d ever betray their partner can unknowingly slide down the slippery slope of emotional sex and cheating.

That’s because flirtatious text messages, self-revealing chats, and intimate confessions can fuel a unique cocktail of brain chemistry  that can turn  a platonic friendship into  an addictive, all-consuming  affair of the heart.  

When the wave of emotional sex takes over, chances are good that it can lead into  emotional, cyber and/or physical cheating.

Whether you’re the one who suspects your partner of cheating, or you’re the one who’s been engaging in a secret affair, Chatting or Cheating, will guide you through the process of discovery, confrontation, confession, and healing.


In CHATTING OR CHEATING  you’ll learn how to…

  • Become “affair aware,”  and stop denying what’s really going on.
  • Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs,  breeding grounds, and relationship vulnerabilities.
  • Gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront them in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.
  • Confess the truth without breaking your partner’s heart.
  • End the Affair, break the addiction, and stop  the obsessing—specific, proven tips and strategies for eliminating unwanted thoughts, moving on, forgiving yourself and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.
  • Survive the betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust, no matter how betrayed and angry you feel, or how impossible it may seem right now.
  • Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, create genuine intimacy, and safely love again.



Emotional sex or physical infidelity doesn’t need to lead to a break-up or divorce.

The good news is that it doesn’t have to be the disaster you imagine. 

When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever.

Chatting or Cheating,  takes you by the hand and guides you through each step required to save your relationship, rebuild your love, jump-start your romance, and make your partnership healthy, honest, and heart-happy.  

You can turn it around.  You can fall in love again.  

Dr. Sheri Meyers shows you how.



Sheri Meyers, Psy.D, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA, is among the national media’s most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship, infidelity and life transition experts.  A regular contributor on broadcast network news including ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, cable TV, and radio talk shows,  Dr. Sheri’s compassionate, practical, straight talk and easy-to-apply methods have inspired and helped thousands of men and women face and overcome their most complex and daunting life, relationship, and sexual challenges. In Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship, Dr. Sheri now shares with you her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 25 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again.


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